A Different Response
Take a moment to think about one specific thing you wanted and didn't get from your partner today. Was it a hug? Extended eye-contact with no digital devices magnetizing your partner's attention? The words, "Thank you for doing that"? How did you react when you didn't get what you wanted? Did you dismiss your own desire? Grow irritable without realizing it? Criticize your partner out loud or internally? Be honest with yourself about your reaction.
Now imagine some way you might respond in this situation that would be different and more conscious. Could you close your eyes, take a breath, and recognize the hurt you feel? Could you ask respectfully for what you need, e.g. "I really want a hug from you"? Could you try to share how you're feeling with tenderness and honesty? The next time you're in this situation, try choosing the less comfortable response over your usual reaction. Be curious about what happens.
