Actually, it’s OK to disagree. Here are 5 ways we can argue better
By Hugh Breakey (The Conversation)
"...obeying the norms of argument shows respect for our partners in argument as intelligent, rational individuals. It acknowledges they can change their minds based on reason.
...What’s more, the norms of argument aren’t just good for individuals, they are also good for groups. They allow conflicts and collective decisions to be approached in a respectful, inclusive way, rather than forcing an agreement or escalating the conflict.
...Unfortunately, being logical, reasonable and open-minded is easier said than done. When we argue with others, their arguments will inevitably call into question our beliefs, values, experience and competence."
How should we navigate the moral complexity of arguing?
1. Avoid thinking that when someone starts up an argument, they are mounting an attack.
2. There is always more going on in any argument than who wins and who loses....Often, the real prize is demonstrating respect, even as we disagree.
3. Don’t be too quick to judge your opponent’s standards of argument.
4. Never assume that others aren’t open to intelligent argument.
5. It’s possible for both sides to “lose” an argument.
"So, when you find yourself in the thick of argument, do your best to remember what’s morally at stake...
...Otherwise, there’s a risk you might lose a lot more than you win."
