Making It Through May
Middle schools in May tend to get a little wild. Here are some tips to help your tween finish the school year strong. I'm not sure if they'll work, but I'm trying them from both sides of the teacher's desk this spring.
* Set Measurable Goals. "Why don't you see your math teacher twice before the test, so she can help you review?" "Finish two more books before the end of the quarter!" I don't recommend a goal like, "Raise your grade in math!" In the end, the kid isn't the one who puts the grade on the report card. Stick to something, like seeing his teacher two times, that he can definitely control.
*Remind Them That the End is Near. When the latest friend drama or teacher trauma inevitably arises, listen with empathy and then remind them: You've only got 19 school days left. Keep a count and celebrate with them. You've got this.
* Delay Clock Checking. This seems to contradict Tip #2, but it comes straight from my Resident Tween's mouth: "Don't check the clock every second," he says. "Instead, wait for what you're sure is five minutes, and it'll usually be more." The adult spin: teach patience and self-restraint. Breathe deeply. Look for opportunities (traffic!) to model mindfulness.