Dear Friend, To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. -Ralph Waldo Emerson To

       
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Dear Friend,

To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment. -Ralph Waldo Emerson

To be yourself.

I'm struggling with this idea this week because of how connected we are with social media these days. I had to consciously disconnect myself today because it just became too infuriating. I was filmed last summer for the documentary American Blogger. The trailer was released this past week and the negative backlash has really been only what I can call extraordinary (and not in a positive way). I can understand some of the criticism, mostly surrounding the film's lack of diversity, but it just keeps going: Tweets and articles one after the other. (By the way, the film hasn't even been released yet....opinions are just off of a 2 minute trailer). I wrote about it here.

I rarely speak up about any drama in the blogging world. I try to stay out of it. I try not to engage any of the negativity because it just gets out of hand....but this one hit too close to home. I know Chris Wiegand, the filmmaker, and his family personally. I felt like I needed to speak up. I can't imagine being so misunderstood. Seeing that can make almost anyone second guess putting themselves out into the world creatively.

Recently I picked up a book at the thrift store by Wally of Famous Amos (The Power in You). I read this passage today:

Judgement is like a screen or a wall between you and someone else. It is impossible to love someone if you pass judgements on that individual. You have already determined the type of person he or she is, but you don't really know the person. They stop you from getting to the soul of that individual, and then loving that soul. [...] The critical mind destroys by labeling something as inadequate and then dismantles it; the learning, searching, believing mind creates by seeking to understand, improve upon, grow, and to exist more substantially.

I guess my plea to the world is, make someone feel good today, because GOOD GRIEF we don't need any help feeling bad. Critique graciously. I don't want anyone to ever feel bad because of something I said or did. I don't want to have ridicule and gossip to ever be something that I have connected with someone over. I want to be a magnet for good.

And so I'm back to my original thought: how can we be ourselves...especially in such a culture as this? How can I teach my daughter to be herself without fearing for the big, naive mistakes that happen naturally in life play out online. In her book Daring Greatly, Brene Brown says that she carries a small sheet of paper in her wallet that has written on it the names of people whose opinions of her matter. I think my list has narrowed only to the people who I know have good intentions. Who would be on your list?

Thanks for listening,

Ashley

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New posts this week:

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@lilblueboo on Instagram

Mega Maps

I spent a lot of time this week cleaning out the rest of the sewing studio so I wasn't able to get much done creatively, but.....

<------- I did start recycling some old jeans into an enormous quilt. It seemed like a great idea at the time but I forgot there are FIFTY STATES. This would have been so much easier if I lived on a small, square island somewhere.

There's a website I stumbled upon (YourChildLearns) that let's you pick the size of the map and print onto multiple pieces of 8.5" x 11" paper....and you just tape them together.

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How to Cut Rounded Corners

I stumbled upon this machine when I wanted to create my own rounded postcards. Now I use it to make mini albums with photos or index cards.

Tutorial is here:

How To Cut Rounded Corners

I order business cards and postcards with square corners because they are much more economical that way. Then I round the corners myself.

Works on invites, holiday cards, lunch box notes too.

This is a Great Truth: Life is Difficult

If you read the newsletter last week then this might be a repeat:

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On Babble this week: Why My Family is Moving to a 1950's Motor Inn

It’s a story that starts 35 years ago....

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From the LBB DIY Vault

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Make a Memory Quilt

 
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Knit Headband PDF Download

 
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Make DIY Recycled Business Cards

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