Most of us never question or examine our core values
we each have certain things we value & subconsciously act out these values without ever realizing that:
what we SAY we want
and what we actually
CHASE are in complete
OPPOSTION to each other.
this generally manifests as complaining about our lot in life. chronically being too tired or too overwhelmed with all things
we believe we HAVE to do.
that often looks like manic overseeing, people-pleasing problem solving,
for folks who have NOT asked us
to do these things
exhaustion
always explaining how busy you are
forgetfulness
chronically getting sick
or having accidents
insominia
chasing things
that don't want us
and getting mad when
they disappoint us
this happens because
we're not acting consciously
in our lives, but rather from unexamined
subconscious
desires that may or may not
truly be apart of our core selves.
this kind of overwhelm is a way of hiding from ourselves and abandoning unexplored dreams bec we’re too busy being in service to others.
whatever you are not changing,
you are choosing
we claim,
we HAVE to do something
as if it’s a fact
instead of being
brutally honest
with ourselves:
we are CHOOSING
to do these things
because we believe
all these things
are a necessary
part of our core values
but core values are
guiding principles we hold
to make our lives
easier and more fulfilling.
these core values
should be subject to
investigation,
reframing,
clarifying
refining
and released (if necessary) from the shame of meeting up to values we never authentically adopted as our own,
they were simply inherited.
but you can't clarify or reframe what hasn't been named or acknowledged. nor can you refine and release yourself
when ur on the
AUTOPILOT
of other peoples
expectations,
desires and wishes.
