Happy Friday!
I know its been a couple of weeks since I've checked in. I was on vacation two weeks ago, more like a staycation, and I took some much needed time off and enjoyed time with my family.
I promise to offer up my blog and social media tips soon in a future newsletter, which is something I get asked about a lot.
So, lately I've been volunteering my time to the wrong things.
I recently read: one of the most useful tools a person has is the power to say NO to things that are taking up time but are not adding much value to one's life.
Most of us want to be polite and helpful to others when people request our time and attention. But, we have to make time for ourselves, do things that make us happy, and we also have to stop doing things that no longer serve a purpose in our life. Sometimes we have to be a little stingy with our time and choose wisely with who we give our time to. And, that's okay.
Time management is a critical part in our lives. I'm sure most of us wish we had more hours in a day, but we only get 24. The older I get, the more it seems like time is going by faster. My dad actually told me that some years ago and now I see what he was talking about. People tend to think they have all the time in the world, but we don't. If you have dreams, a bucket list and things you've been wanting to accomplish, career wise, personal goals, whatever it is, START DOING IT NOW! What are you waiting for?
Earlier this week, I sat back and really thought about how I use up my hours in a single day. Once I take out the hours I need to sleep, work at my full-time job, commute to work and get ready in the morning ... when I broke it all down, I only have 6.5 hours left in a single day during the work week. But, it doesn't stop there.
Now, subtract all of the time I spend writing and blogging on the side, the time I use for daily chores, run errands, etc., working out, and time for family and my dog ... once I factor in all of that, I don't have that many hours left for me and quality time. I also try to squeeze in time for TV shows and even then, I'm usually multitasking because I just can't sit around and only watch TV for hours. We're all super busy in life and we have to pick and choose what gets our most attention. And, I don't even have children yet... that would require more of my time.
So when I look at all of this and really break it down, that leaves with me zero time for the bullshit.
The bullshit for me is: giving my time to people and things that serve me no purpose. I'm not wasting my time hanging out with wishy washy friends, I'm done working on projects that aren't helping me or putting money in my pockets. And, I'm done wasting my time on men who ain't about nothing. That's a HUGE waste right there. The men who claim they want to get to know me and then I invest a lot of time talking and chatting, ya know, going through that whole interview process when meeting a new person... yeah, I don't have the time for all that shit right now. I fell all the way back in that department.
I've wasted so much time on the wrong people. Chatting with them did nothing to benefit me. I look back now and realize I could have used those hours and invested that time into my brand/blog.
So, if you're not helping me build in life, then peace!
Don't feel guilty for saying NO. Be firm and direct and stay true to yourself and do the things that you really want to do that helps you flourish in life.
