If we do stop growing at this stage there is a danger that we will become ego-driven and narcissistic. Me, me, me. And not caring about the opinions or lives of others. We become isolated and no longer a part of the web of life of ongoing harmony that underlies creation on our planet. We have seen the result of this kind of egotism in fundamentalism in religion and nationalism where we say, “I’m right. He or she is wrong.”
Learning to be independent we create boundaries between ourselves and others. This is a necessary step in our growth as it is for a child to pull away from its parents and make its own choices. To not do this, means we are dependent on others to make our decisions…to pay our bills, look after us, etc. and being dependent in this way is equally not an evolved state.
Where We’re Going:
So, let’s pat ourselves on the back for all that independence has taught us and remember that these skills are the foundation of our next step. We do not lose them in moving forward but these skills and values are transmuted into interdependence which is the next step. With interdependence, we realistically assess our strengths and our weaknesses and offer our talents to others as well as asking for help from others who have a talent we lack. We learn when and how to listen to others and how to deeply respect other’s talents and gifts and their willingness to share these with us. In effect, we become a co-creator with others to develop ourselves and to help others develop themselves. By doing this we put ourselves in harmony with the Earth and the great beings who oversee our evolution.
