What is FAST?
DBT is famous for it’s acronyms and here is one more: be Fair, no Apologies, stick to Values, be Truthful.
Be Fair
Be fair to yourself and to the other person. Remember to validate your own feelings and wishes, as well as the feelings and wishes of the other person.
Don’t Over-Apologize
No apologizing for being alive or for making a request at all. No apologies for having an opinion, for disagreeing. No looking ashamed, with eyes and head down or body slumped. No invalidating the valid.
Stick to Your Values
Don’t sell out your values or integrity for reasons that aren’t very important. Be clear on what you believe is the moral or valued way of thinking and acting, and “stick to your guns.”
Be Truthful
Don’t lie. Don’t act helpless when you are not. Don’t exaggerate or make up excuses.