Bonnets
Brenda McKean recalled in her memoirs, Patriotic individuals were sporting secession badges on their lapels and bonnets. Described as folded blue ribbons, some badges were red, white, and blue ribbons. Others wore a flower posy called a Southern badge, which consisted of a cluster of hyacinths and arborvitae tied with red/white/blue ribbons. Other men preferred a rosette of pinecones. Both men and women wore blue cockades during secession in Rockingham County, N.C.
The Daily Exchange noted in December 1860, Many of the ladies of Richmond now wear the secession rosette in their bonnets, while others show the Union colors, red, white and blue.
So if you are a lady who wants to know where to wear your cockade... you have many options!